I don’t…… Get it…
((I found this WAY too funny lol))
OH LORD I’M DYING. Heh.
I never learned how to read music, how do I understand this??
omfg this is great
i dont fucking get it you assholes.
I get it, and this is quality. I have no sympathy for those who don’t get it.
AHAHHAHA YES. HAVE FUN DECRYPTING IT IF YOU DON’T READ MUSIC XD
Nope sir, I’m in love with you, not John :D
To be fair, what do we know of him as a person? But I agree, not just that character, but his work in general. Great acting is great acting <3
Have you actually told them that you want concrit from them?
I’m pretty sure they aren’t mind readers.
Before you read this, please read my disclaimer first.
I’ve faced similar complaints before. There are several options here. 1. Your friends really do think your stuff is nice, or cute. 2.They think it’s nice, and cute, but also think there is room for improvement but don’t want to say anything in fear of offending you. Or then there’s the third option, which is that they think it’s horrible but don’t want to offend you. We could debate what makes a better friend, the one who honestly in your face tells you your new neon pink-lemon yellow shirt looks horrible in spite of possibly offending you, or the one who wants to let you enjoy your new shirt you clearly like even though they personally don’t like the colours. But that’s not the case here, I think.
What the case is, in fact, is… Why do you want your friends to concrit you? This “It’s making me feel like my art and myself aren’t good enough for them anymore”… Just the sentiment expressed here rings alarm bells for me. I could be wrong, of course. But for me, it sounds like someone who “buys acceptance” through art (something I’ve done all through my life), and that the actual, honest criticism might destroy the balance of the relationship. I’ve seen that happen from both sides - I’ve also been the one throwing temper tantrums at concrit going “WHO DO THEY THINK THEY ARE”, but I’ve also been the one giving it, and seen friends, or people I thought were friends, distanced by it. It’s a two-edged sword, so be careful with it.
See… There’s this thing. Who are you making your art for? Yourself, or someone else? (I’m assuming this is an amateur artist, not a professional, so I’ll deal with the assumptions it’s amateur.) I’ve been trapped years and years in a circle of “buying acceptance” from people around me by providing services, making art, putting in ridiculous effort in things that aren’t all that important, because that seemed to be the only way to get positive feedback from people. If you want criticism, but in the meantime fear you’re not ‘good enough’ for your friends anymore, honest criticism might kill your friendship.
Criticism, especially the way it’s implied here, will contain a person’s opinion, and possibly even valid information they’ve gathered through learning their subject more, reading, lessons, tutorials, whatnot. Ideally, it should not only contain information of what’s wrong, but also of what’s good, and HOW TO IMPROVE. But most often, people don’t adhere to ideals. They might put some things bluntly, or point out flaws they have no idea how you should fix. Maybe they say something that they don’t even consider important, but that tears apart your confidence, because it’s something you worked on for ages and then they think it isn’t very good? They might even not be giving the concrit because they don’t know what to say to you! But if you ask for it, you MUST be ready for it. And if they’re real friends, and give you the honest concrit, you have to be the friend back AND NOT BE OFFENDED if they actually do point out some big things to improve.
By and large, if how you feel about not getting the criticism is ‘you’re not good enough for someone’, it sounds like you might want to try to get the criticism elsewhere. If there are already negative feels in that relationship, the actual honest concrit might shatter the whole thing. Maybe your friends will excercise their eye for excruciating detail and say things that offend you? Will you be able to accept it for friendly advise, or will it be more proof of that you’re not good enough? I’ve seen people asking for criticism, but when it’s given, they flip and accuse the critic of anything between showing off and trying to make them feel bad. Think carefully before asking a friend for criticism, you need to have a VERY close and trusting relationship before you can actually do that without letting it eat away at your friendship.
I could say a few words about friendship here too, but maybe not. It’s long enough as it is. XDAlso my brain is turning fuzzy so I hope I didn’t make a mess of it. X)
“ Ideally, it should not only contain information of what’s wrong, but also of what’s good, and HOW TO IMPROVE. But most often, people don’t adhere to ideals. They might put some things bluntly, or point out flaws they have no idea how you should fix.” (Emphasis mine)
This right here is one of my biggest pet peeves regarding concrit. People just slap together a paragraph of “this looks wrong but idk exactly what it is or how to fix it you’re on your own sorry :D” and then get haughty if the recipient complains about it.
Example: Years ago I got some crits about a drawing that were essentially, “Looks good but could use more work.” Um, thanks? What about it needs work? Did I do anything right? But I got a different crit from someone else that said, “Looks good but the wing should be larger here in order to achieve lift, etc.” (Paraphrasing, of course.) Yes, good.
It just bugs me. People get upset over concrit that isn’t even good concrit and they are roasted for it.
This is really off-topic, sorry. D:
tl;dr I agree with your dissertation. :>
Well that’s the thing! It really bugs me that while some people waltz in giving “constructive criticism” IT’S NOT CONSTRUCTIVE if it contains no tips whatsoever on HOW TO IMPROVE, or at least point you in the right direction (“the hand looks a bit off, I’m sorry I don’t know what it is, but here’s a good tutorial”). It could, of course, be debated that if you are not asked for criticism, it might be a good idea to only say things you have something to say about. If you’re asked for criticism and see something funny but don’t know how to fix it, it’s okay to say so.
(And some people don’t even want to bother to give concrit and that’s more than okay. If you do, however, there are a lot of ways to make it more efficient and less like egoboosting, because that’s what it appears like if you don’t elaborate what you mean.)
“It could use some more work” is a phrase someone uses to appear more professional than the person they’re critiqueing, but in fact it just makes them look like idiots. And the best way to deal with such feedback is acid-dripping sarcasm. XD